How to use a vibrator during sex?

Let’s clear something up which in our eyes is a HUGE misconception..the idea that bringing sex toys into the bedroom means the sex well isn’t good? Total rubbish. It’s time to bust that myth wide open.

A study in Psychology & Sexuality found that women who used vibrators during both solo and partnered play reported higher sexual satisfaction than those who didn’t. Vibrators = more satisfaction? Yes, please. (This is from a Psychology book released in the 70s that we read a while back)

And it’s not just the ladies who are loving it! We asked a group of men about their experiences using sex toys during partnered sex. The results? They were all for it. These legends said it enhanced intimacy, added excitement, dialled up their pleasure and their partner’s. Win-win, right?

Sex toys in the mix aren’t just fun, they can take you to places you didn’t know existed. From extra internal and external stimulation to just feeling ridiculously good, like really really good. They’re a ticket to next-level orgasms.

If you’ve been wondering how to sneak your favourite sex toy into the action or are unsure how to bring it up with your partner, don’t sweat it—we’ve got all the tips to help you make it happen. Stay tuned for the scoop!

Using a vibrator solo vs. with a partner

Using a vibrator for solo play? Absolutely scorching. These little gems aren’t just designed to get you off, okay kind of are but, they unlock new, exciting erogenous zones, ramp up the pleasure, and can even fast-track you to the big O especially when you’re in a hurry but wildly horny.

Now, imagine all that plus the magic you’re already sharing with your partner. Yep, that’s what happens when you bring a vibrator into the mix during sex. It’s not just about more intense leg weakening pleasure, it’s about different types of pleasure—perfect for anyone who doesn’t always climax from penetration alone (and let’s face it, that’s most women).

Here’s the tea, only approx 18% of women orgasm from penetration alone. The rest? They need or prefer clitoral stimulation, yes fellas thats external stimulation. That’s why we’re obsessed with clit suckers during sex—they’re like the ultimate empowerment tool for getting the orgasms you deserve. 

Plus, adding a sex toy to the mix doesn’t just feel good—it can boost intimacy and communication. Talking about what feels amazing for both of you creates a deeper connection and can spice things up in your sex life.

While sex is about so much more than orgasms (hello, intimacy, connection, and all that jazz), let’s be real. Closing the orgasm gap with a trusty vibrator could be the game-changer your bedroom’s been waiting for.

What are the best sex toys to use during sex? 

Keen to get your vibe on? Here are our top picks for the best vibrators to use during sex.

Bullet vibrators

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First thing’s first, don't let their size fool you—these little bullet vibrators pack a big punch, and their compact  discreet design makes them the perfect sex toy for partner play. Take our Scylla bullet vibrator, for example: small but oh-so-mighty, and ready to turn up the heat wherever you need it. In the bedroom, bathtub, shower or even a work trip.

Bullet vibrators  like Scylla can work magic on almost any external erogenous zone—nipples, clitoris, perineum, or any other spot that craves a little extra attention. Just imagine the possibilities.

Because of their sleek size, bullet vibrators are ideal for spicing things up during foreplay, oral, or even penetrative sex. Imagine this, while your partner’s going down on you, Scylla’s there to add a whole new layer of stimulation and excitement . Talk about fireworks.

Heres a quick quick pro tip, never insert a bullet (or any toy without a flared base) into the anus. The anus doesn’t have an ‘end,’ so toys can get lost—and that’s a trip to emergency that no one needs .

Wand vibrators 

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Okay time to talk about Cleopatra, our regal wand vibrator that’s all about delivering broad, powerful vibes straight from its luxe, bulbous head. If you’re ready for some seriously explosive pleasure, Cleopatra’s got your back (and your front, and, well… wherever you want).

While wand vibrators like Cleopatra are a bit bigger than your average bullet vibrator, that extra size packs some serious punch. They’re perfect for when you’re in the mood for strong, all-encompassing stimulation, and honestly, the only limit is your imagination.

Here’s the scoop:

• Hold Cleopatra against the clit during sex for next-level sensations.
• Try pressing it between two vulvas during scissoring for shared clitoral bliss.
• Use it for external prostate stimulation during foreplay or partnered fun.
• Explore sensations on the penis and testicles—just start slow on the sensitive spots like the head of the penis, then ramp up as desired.

Wand vibrators like Cleopatra aren’t just versatile; they’re literally  for everyone. Whether it’s vulvas, penises, or prostates, Cleopatra wand vibrator delivers the royal treatment to all and every body. Just don’t forget to pair it with a good water-based lube to make every session silky-smooth.

Ready to reign over your pleasure kingdom? Cleopatra’s here to crown your O-moments with glory.

Clitoral vibrators

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Okay im sure you have all heard of a clit sucker, clit vibrator, clit massager and there is a reason Razia our clit sucker is a best seller 

 Most vulva-owners need more than just penetration to reach the orgasm we have always hoped and dreamed of, which is where clit vibrator swoop’s in to save the day. Enter Razia, our game-changing clit sucker, designed to take your pleasure to levels you didn’t know existed.

Razia doesn’t just vibrate; it combines gentle pulses of air with vibrations to deliver a sensation that’s as close to mind-blowing oral as it gets. Seriously, once you try it, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it.

This little marvel isn’t just for solo play, either. Razia works beautifully during penetrative sex, foreplay, oral, and even anal adventures. If you’re using it while getting down in missionary or another close-contact position, its flush-fitting design ensures you stay comfortable and free from any awkward “handle pokes.”

Ready for orgasms so good they deserve their own standing ovation? Razia’s our best selling clit sucker is here to deliver the ultimate performance every single time. Please remember if you use it for some anal stimulation clean throughly afterwards (or buy two ) 

Flexible vibrator

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Welcome Theodora, our flexible vibrator that’s as versatile, good looking and sleek as it is powerful. Whether you’re exploring solo or spicing things up with a partner, Theodora bends and adjusts to your body’s unique curves, delivering personalised pleasure exactly where you want it.

For vulva-owners, Theodora’s flexibility makes it perfect for reaching all the right spots, whether that’s internal or external stimulation—or both at the same time! 

But let’s not forget about the fellas—Theodora’s got you covered too.

• Perineum Play: Theodora’s vibrations  can target this super-sensitive zone between the testicles and anus for mind-blowing sensations.
• Prostate Stimulation: Its flexible design makes it easy to hit the P-spot, offering deep, satisfying internal pleasure.
• Shaft Sensation: Glide it along the shaft of the penis for vibrations that’ll take your experience to a whole new level.
• Testicle Tease: Hold it gently against the testicles for a subtle but incredibly pleasurable buzz.

And no matter how you use Theodora, pairing it with a water-based lube will enhance every sensation, ensuring a smooth, comfortable ride every time.

Whether you’re a beginner or a vibe aficionado, the Theodora vibrator is your go-to for exploring new sensations, unlocking hidden pleasure zones, and giving every body the attention it deserves. Ready to bend the rules of pleasure? Theodora’s got your back—and every other spot too.

What are the best positions to use a vibrator in during sex?

Have you thought about adding in sex toys while having sex? Well when it comes to mixing sex toys with your favourite positions, there are zero rules—just wonderful possibilities! That said, here are some of our top picks to level up your pleasure game.

Mutual Masturbation & Foreplay: The Ultimate Icebreaker

So, it’s not technically “sex,” but trust us, this is the gateway to mind-blowing sex toy play with your partner.

Snuggle up and take turns teasing each other with your hands or mouth, then bring a vibrator into the mix for a whole new vibe. Caress it over their pleasure zones, nipples, stomach, inner thighs or which ever you know sends a shiver down their spine. Start slow before cranking up the intensity.

Pro tip: if your vibrator is giving off too much energy, try using it over clothing or underwear to dial it down. Bonus points if you make it a mutual show-and-tell by watching each other get off.  Ugh Hot, right?

Face Sitting: Because Queens Deserve Thrones

This is one of our faves (giving and receiving) Who says face sitting is just for one gender? Everyone deserves the royal treatment that bring deep connection and intimacy. With one partner lying down, the other perches on their face for some incredible oral action.

Now, here’s the twist: while your partner’s busy working their magic, grab a sex toy—like a wand, bullet, or clit vibrator to double up on the pleasure. Want to get real creative? Flip the script into a 69 variation by bringing your partner’s fave sex toy into play. Just remember breathing room is sexy, too.

Missionary: The Underrated Classic

Okay here US OUT Missionary’s reputation as “basic” is so last season.This position can give the best connection, closeness, variety of speed, depth and comfort. The receiving partner lies back, the penetrating partner takes the lead, and voilà—you’ve got the perfect setup for sex toy fun.

Hold a vibrator against the clit, penis, or perineum for extra feels, why not  take it up a notch by switching angles. Whether it’s legs up over the shoulders, knees bent, or leaning back, this position lets you easily sneak in a bullet vibrator to make things extra hot and steamy. Trust us, if you do it right and give it the sexual energy it deserves you’ll never call it boring again.

Doggy Style: Not Just for the Dogs

This one’s an all round crowd-pleaser but with a name we wish we could change. But hey, it’s a banger (literally).

The receiving partner gets on all fours while their partner takes the reins from behind. This position is perfect for clitoral vibrators like Razia, which you can easily reach down and use for hands-on pleasure. Want to kick it up another notch? Try double penetration with a G-spot vibrator during anal. There is something empowering about being on all fours and being taken control of 

Cowgirl: Saddle Up, Partner

Feeling bossy? Cowgirl puts you in charge of everything.No cowboy hat required but appreciated. The penetrating partner lies back while the receiving partner climbs on top and takes control or speed, variety and penetration depth.

This position is perfect for adding sex toys like wands or clit vibrators into the mix. The top partner can easily use a sex toy to hit their sweet spots while riding, or the bottom partner can be a generous lover and take over and working their magic with the vibrator. The angle here is chef’s kiss for G-spot stimulation.

The moral of the story? There’s no wrong way to play—just bring your sex toys, your imagination, and your willingness to explore. Now, go forth and turn up the heat! 🔥

How to introduce a vibrator in coupled sex

So we need to smash the stigma, enjoy the goosebumps and understand it is normal if this bit feels a little awkward. Yes the idea of introducing a vibrator into your sex life. Totally normal to feel a bit hesitant!

First up using a vibrator doesn’t mean you or your partner are bad in bed. In fact, it can supercharge the experience for both you and your partner. But if you’re feeling a little shy about it, don’t sweat it. Communication is key to all things great! (Your pleasure deserves it)

Before pulling out the vibrator, take a moment to have a chill, open conversation with your partner. Sit down, be honest about what you’re curious about, and let them ask questions. Find a moment when you both have some time to talk without distractions, this isn’t a 30-second convo in the middle of Netflix or when you’re feeling a little horny (maybe let the conversation get you both horny)

Try starting with something simple, like:
"Hey, I was thinking it might be fun to try a vibrator next time we’re together. What do you think?"
If that feels a little intimidating, you can even mention that you read something about vibrators during sex and thought it sounded interesting. Heck, if you’re really stuck, just send them this article—we’ve got your back!

Now, here’s the most important part: never ever ever pressure your partner into anything they’re not comfortable with.Consent is king and queen. If they’re not into the idea of using a vibrator, then it’s all good! It’s okay if they’re just not there yet. In that case, it might have to be a solo adventure for now, and that’s totally fine.

But if they’re down, get ready to have a fun convo about what vibrator or sex toy will work for both of you. You could even make it a team effort, shop together, get excited, and pick out a sex toy that suits you both.

You both deserve to have fun, so why not share the pleasure? 🙌